The 9 Kinkiest Cities to Visit in 2026

Dating app Feeld just dropped their annual RAW Global Map of Desire, and the results are...revealing. Turns out some of our favorite LGBTQ+ travel destinations also happen to be the kinkiest.

From bratting to pegging to open relationships, these cities are keeping things interesting both on the apps and in the streets. Here are the nine cities where queer travelers can find the most adventurous crowds—plus where to stay and what to do when you visit.

Portland isn't just keeping things weird—they're keeping things kinky. This Rose City tops Feeld's rankings with the most submissives, bottoms, and switches per capita, plus a population that's into bratting, edging, role play, and open relationships.

The Queer Scene: While Portland doesn't have a single defined gayborhood like some cities, the city's LGBTQ+ scene centers around Northeast Broadway Corridor and the Pearl District. Darcelle XV Showplace has been serving drag excellence since 1967 (RIP Darcelle herself, who performed into her 90s), while Scandals has been pouring drinks for the gays since 1979. For a more alternative vibe, check out Escape Bar & Grill for karaoke nights and comfort food, or hit up C.C. Slaughters for dancing. The Eagle caters to Portland's bear and leather community.

What To Do: Beyond the bars, Portland excels at being outdoorsy and artsy. Forest Park offers over 80 miles of hiking trails—one of the largest urban forests in the U.S. The Portland Art Museum and Oregon Museum of Science and Industry (OMSI) are must-visits. Powell's City of Books is a book lover's paradise that takes up an entire city block. And yes, the food scene lives up to the hype—hit up the food cart pods for everything from Korean to vegan donuts.

Where To Stay: Hotel Rose ($150–250/night) markets specifically to gay travelers with a prime downtown location on the Willamette River. For something with history, McMenamins Crystal Hotel ($100–180/night) is a former gay bathhouse turned quirky boutique hotel, complete with a heated basement soaking pool. Budget travelers should check out The Society Hotel ($50–120/night) with its hostel-style bunks and private rooms.

Just north of Portland, Seattle keeps the Pacific Northwest kinky. The Emerald City has the most tops per capita according to Feeld, plus the second-most submissives, bottoms, and switches after Portland. Seattleites are into bratting, pegging, and open relationships.

The Queer Scene: Capitol Hill is Seattle's LGBTQ+ epicenter, packed with rainbow crosswalks, gay bars, and queer-owned coffee shops (this is Starbucks territory, after all). Pony is the neighborhood anchor with retro dive bar vibes in a converted 1930s gas station, featuring Tuesday karaoke and Sunday tea dances. Queer/Bar delivers drag shows and DJ nights in a stylish setting. Neighbors has been the city's go-to gay dance club for over 30 years with two levels of disco energy. For something more specialized, The Cuff Complex throws leather-themed events, while The Wildrose Bar is Seattle's only lesbian bar (celebrating 40+ years).

What To Do: Pike Place Market is touristy but iconic—watch fishmongers throw salmon and grab donuts from the original Starbucks. The Space Needle offers 360-degree views, while the Museum of Pop Culture (MoPOP) celebrates music and sci-fi. For nature, take a ferry to Bainbridge Island or head to Discovery Park's beaches and forests. The city's food scene slaps—from Dick's Drive-In burgers to the international cuisine of Capitol Hill.

Where To Stay: Hotel Max ($180–280/night) celebrates Seattle's arts scene with works by local artists on every floor. Silver Cloud Hotel Broadway ($130–200/night) sits directly across from Seattle University with easy access to Capitol Hill's gay scene. For vintage charm, Gaslight Inn ($120–180/night) is a landmark B&B minutes from Pike/Pine corridor bars.

Home to the Castro and the legendary Folsom Street Fair, SF being on this list surprises exactly no one. Feeld calls it the role-play capital of the world, and it's a top city for open relationships.

The Queer Scene: The Castro remains ground zero for gay San Francisco—this is where Harvey Milk lived and worked, where the rainbow flag was born, and where decades of queer history live in every rainbow crosswalk. Hit Twin Peaks for a drink in the bar's famous floor-to-ceiling windows (installed in 1972 as a radical act of visibility). The Café brings clubby energy with drag shows and go-go dancers. For leather and kink culture, head to SoMa where The Eagle has been serving the community since the 1980s with its massive outdoor patio and anything-goes vibe.

What To Do: Start at Harvey Milk Plaza and the Pink Triangle Park memorial. The GLBT Historical Society Museum documents our community's history. Walk the Rainbow Honor Walk with plaques celebrating queer pioneers. Beyond the Castro, explore Golden Gate Park, visit Alcatraz, ride a cable car, and eat your way through the Ferry Building Marketplace. Baker Beach's north end is the city's unofficial gay and clothing-optional zone with Golden Gate Bridge views.

Where To Stay: Hotel Castro ($200–350/night) is a 12-room boutique property in the heart of the neighborhood with rooms themed after LGBTQ+ heroes. Beck's Motor Lodge ($100–180/night) offers budget-friendly accommodations steps from Castro bars. For downtown luxury near SoMa's scene, The St. Regis ($400–700/night) features an Olympic-sized saltwater pool and world-class spa.

Miami has the most doms according to Feeld, and is also the city most into pegging. But here's the thing about gay Miami: while South Beach has gay-friendly vibes, the real gay action is 30 minutes north in Wilton Manors, dubbed "the second gayest city in America."

The Queer Scene: Wilton Manors' Wilton Drive—known simply as "the Drive"—packs more gay bars per capita than almost anywhere in America. Georgie's Alibi Monkey Bar serves as the social hub with diverse programming daily. Eagle Wilton Manors celebrates kink culture with themed gear nights. Hunters has been a Drive institution for 30+ years with disco and dance parties. No Manors offers a fresh take on LGBTQ+ nightlife with trivia, variety shows, and "No Manors Got Talent" nights. The West End Lounge brings sophistication with cabaret-style performances.

What To Do: Beyond the bars, hit Sebastian Street Beach in Fort Lauderdale (15 minutes away) for the designated gay beach. For nude sunbathing, Haulover Beach in Miami (40 minutes south) is clothing-optional. In Miami proper, explore the Wynwood Walls street art, shop Lincoln Road, and people-watch on Ocean Drive. Art Basel in December brings an influx of culture (and gays) to Miami Beach.

Where To Stay: In Wilton Manors, Casa Hermes ($180–280/night) is a design-forward guesthouse with mod Italian furnishings and a saltwater pool. The Cabanas Guesthouse & Spa ($150–250/night) is a clothing-optional gay resort on the water with a full-service spa. In Miami Beach, Nobu Miami Beach ($300–600/night) offers luxury accommodations if you want to base yourself in South Beach proper.

Berlin is the most heteroflexible city in the world (heteroflexibility was also 2025's fastest-growing sexuality, up 193%). Berliners are very into open relationships and pegging.

The Queer Scene: Berlin's queer scene is legendary and sprawling. Schöneberg is the historic gay neighborhood where you'll find traditional bars and the Schwules Museum documenting queer history. But Berlin's real draw is its club culture—KitKatClub and Lab.oratory are infamous for their anything-goes, sexually-charged parties (think Berghain but kinkier). For a more accessible entry point, try SchwuZ, one of Europe's oldest queer clubs with multiple dance floors and outdoor spaces. Connection Club is popular with the international gay crowd.

What To Do: The East Side Gallery features murals on the remaining Berlin Wall. Museum Island packs five world-class museums onto one island in the Spree River. The Brandenburg Gate and Reichstag dome are must-sees. Explore Kreuzberg and Neukölln neighborhoods for street art, Turkish food, and alternative culture. Memorial to the Murdered Jews of Europe is a somber, essential visit.

Where To Stay: Hotel Ku'damm 101 ($120–200/night) offers modern design near Schöneberg's gay scene. For something more central, Motel One Berlin-Alexanderplatz ($80–140/night) provides budget-friendly style near major sights. Boutique travelers love Hotel Oderberger ($150–250/night) in Prenzlauer Berg with its historic public pool turned spa.

Boston is the edging capital of the world with 12% of respondents saying they're into it. Bostonians also love pegging (a theme across most of these kinky cities).

The Queer Scene: Boston's LGBTQ+ scene centers around the South End and Bay Village neighborhoods. Club Café is the anchor venue with multiple spaces including a cabaret stage, dance floor, and video bar. Jacques' Cabaret has been serving drag since 1938 (it's one of America's oldest drag bars). The Eagle Boston caters to the leather and bear community. Cathedral Station offers a neighborhood bar vibe in the South End.

What To Do: Walk the Freedom Trail to see Revolutionary War sites. Explore the Museum of Fine Arts and Isabella Stewart Gardner Museum. Wander through Boston Common and the Public Garden. Catch a Red Sox game at Fenway Park. Eat cannoli in the North End (Mike's vs. Modern Pastry is an ongoing debate). Take a day trip to Provincetown on Cape Cod for peak gay beach town vibes (just 90 minutes away).

Where To Stay: The Verb Hotel ($150–280/night) near Fenway Park brings retro-chic rock 'n' roll vibes with a pool and vinyl collection. For boutique charm in the South End, try The Revolution Hotel ($120–220/night). Luxury seekers should book The Liberty Hotel ($250–450/night), a converted jail turned five-star property.

Denver may surprise you as a kinky city, but locals are into bratting, role play, and edging—when they're not skiing or hiking.

The Queer Scene: Denver's gayborhood is Capitol Hill, home to most of the city's LGBTQ+ bars and venues. X Bar is known for themed nights and a welcoming mixed crowd. Tracks is Denver's largest gay dance club with multiple rooms and weekly drag shows. Charlie's is a country-western gay bar (yee-haw!). The Wrangler Bar caters to the leather and Levi's crowd.

What To Do: Red Rocks Amphitheatre hosts concerts in a stunning natural setting (check the schedule). Explore the Denver Art Museum and Meow Wolf Denver for trippy immersive art. Walk the 16th Street Mall and check out Larimer Square for dining. Take a day trip to Rocky Mountain National Park (90 minutes away) or hit the slopes in winter—Aspen is famously gay-friendly and about 3.5 hours away.

Where To Stay: The Crawford Hotel ($200–350/night) inside Denver's historic train station brings elegance and convenience. The Maven Hotel ($150–280/night) in the Dairy Block arts district offers modern style. For budget travelers, Curtis Denver ($90–160/night) features pop culture-themed floors and a rooftop bar.

New York City doesn't dominate the individual kink categories, but it makes the list for a notable stat: the number of bisexuals in NYC has increased 161% on Feeld.

The Queer Scene: NYC's queer scene is everywhere, but Hell's Kitchen and Greenwich Village remain the anchors. The Stonewall Inn is a living museum where the modern LGBTQ+ rights movement began—have a drink at the bar where it all started. Julius' (opened 1864) claims to be NYC's oldest gay bar. The Monster features piano bar entertainment and drag performances. In Hell's Kitchen, Industry Bar draws huge crowds, while Hardware serves the cruise-y crowd. For nightclub energy, try Playhouse or Ritz. For a younger crowd, head to Brooklyn.

What To Do: NYC is exhausting to summarize, but highlights include: walk the High Line, explore the Met and MoMA, see a Broadway show, eat your way through the food halls (Chelsea Market, Eataly), visit the 9/11 Memorial, catch sunset from Brooklyn Bridge, explore DUMBO and Williamsburg. Don't try to see everything in one trip.

Where To Stay: The Standard High Line ($250–450/night) offers views of the Hudson and the Meatpacking District scene. LUMA Hotel Times Square ($180–320/night) provides modern accommodations in the heart of Midtown. For Hell's Kitchen proximity, try The LUMA Hotel's sister property or look for Airbnbs in the gayborhood. Ace Hotel New York ($200–380/night) attracts a creative, queer-friendly crowd in NoMad.

One of the places that all the gays will be talking about in 2026 because WorldPride. You'd expect the home of the Red Light District to make this list. Like Berlin, Amsterdam's population is very into open relationships and identifies as heteroflexible more than other cities.

The Queer Scene: Amsterdam's gay scene clusters around Reguliersdwarsstraat and Kerkstraat. Prik is a pink-saturated cocktail bar that's become an Instagram favorite. Café Montmartre draws a mixed gay/lesbian crowd. The Eagle Amsterdam serves the leather community. Club Church is the city's main gay dance club. Don't miss Amsterdam Pride in late July/early August—it's the only Pride parade in the world that happens entirely on the water via canal boats.

What To Do: Rent a bike and explore like a local—Amsterdam is one of the world's most bike-friendly cities. Visit the Anne Frank House (book weeks in advance), Van Gogh Museum, and Rijksmuseum. Walk the canal ring, a UNESCO World Heritage site. Explore the Jordaan neighborhood for boutiques and cafés. Take a day trip to the windmills at Zaanse Schans or the flower fields in spring.

Where To Stay: Hotel V Nesplein ($140–240/night) puts you in the heart of Amsterdam's nightlife in a stylish boutique setting. The Hoxton Amsterdam ($150–280/night) occupies historic canal houses with hip interiors. Budget travelers should check out ClinkNOORD ($40–100/night), a hostel in Amsterdam Noord with private rooms and waterfront views.

Planning Your Visit?

All of these cities offer world-class LGBTQ+ experiences beyond their kinky reputations. Whether you're into edging or just want to edge your way through a great gay bar crawl, these destinations deliver. Check local Pride calendars and event listings before booking—major events can make accommodations pricier but the energy unbeatable.

Average hotel prices listed are for standard double rooms during non-peak seasons and can vary significantly during Pride weekends, major events, or holidays.